These days we talk more about life, about our
happiness and sorrows. These days we talk more about our being..! And these
days we are just talking, sharing and connecting. Is this is a sign that we are
getting older or more mature. Yes, of course. We laugh, we crack lame jokes, we
pull each other’s legs and we denote each other with rubbish adjectives too!
But yes these days we are talking more about life.
May be each one of us is into some kind of a battle or leading a day which is
different than a normal one. Some of our conversations actually make us feel
that we are growing older, but at the same time it makes us feel we are
growing. Yes, we are growing, understanding, learning and more than that
supporting each other.
As we grow older, our
circle automatically becomes small. May be because of growing responsibilities,
or being more specific with what we want in life, and from the people around.
The frequency of calls get reduced, but the length and depth of conversation
remains the same. People often judge you for this too. There is actually no end
to it. Yes, but these days we are doing this, we are letting people judge us.
Two days back when a
friend teased on the most important chapter of my life, "Pagli ab to teri umar
ho gayi hai" (Girl, you are growing old). To which I replied, 'Haan, Haan
I am senior citizen now (referring to marriage). This is one topic where I
try to follow - 'Take it easy...Ahaaa' policy. But on a serious note, this is
something which is not considered so easy. I mean, Oh yes! I know I have
touched the mark of that beautiful number. Rather not just me, but most of my
favourites have done it too beautifully. But most importantly 30 and still
single! So does that mark you in a little senior citizen list? I wonder when
society compares your age and your life with others. I don't blame them for
this. This is the way it has always been.
By and large, if you are
30 and single, it is bound that there would be lot of judgements attached
to it. Some are weird, some are funny and some make me think, oh really! 30 and
single means either you have had a bad relationship experience, or may be
something is wrong with your life, may be a doubtful past or they see your
troubled future.
Since you have crossed an
age benchmark after which your fertility is questionable, you can't get a good
match. Getting a good match or not is a secondary matter. But most important
part is - you have to say a yes, just because your parents are worried...or you
are approaching the double sweet 16 figure. Having said that I don't mean that
I am against marriage or having a partner to share my joys and sorrows with. I
don't mind settling for little lesser than my expectations, because nothing is
perfect in the world. But can we just stop judging someone's life. I am not
writing this just because it's my own story. But it is a story of lot many
young women and even men. Marriage is a beautiful journey. But if you are not
happy about something or someone, you will fade the beauty on your own.
Every one of us is busy
judging the beauty of the other side on the basis of beautiful profile
pictures, motivational posts, lots of happening pictures, happy faces, check
ins etc. etc. etc on the social media. Some people love to do that, some just
do it to feel better after a bad day or a week, some just love to share a happy
moment out of the dull phase and some just do it just for the sake of it.
Like when I feel sad or
messy or sleepy, I just dress up well, put up Kohl, carry beautiful accessory,
just to feel good. On those days people notice my dress, my overall look rather
than my dull mood. They praise me and I feel good. This is more about the idea
of being happy. Yes, happiness is the key! At the end of the day everyone wants
to be happy with whatever they have, no matter how tough life is.
While writing this, I
have lots of thoughts crossing my mind. Writing all of them would be tough. But
all of it is a big chaos, chaos of expectation, chaos of being judged, chaos of
thoughts. Phew!!!
So, let’s live
beautifully with the chaos. Talk about life, share about life and develop
connect with life. I guess, it will make things little easier.
Have a superb day!
